It’s no wonder why children mobilize their resources, not for learning, but to protect their egos and one of the main ways they do this is by not trying. This is a trigger of a fixed mindset. You have to have a growth mindset to break that problem.
Our tiny dancer was of the fixed mindset for a very long time. If things got too challenging she would back down in a minute. If something looked and felt out of her comfort level of understanding she would fib and say that she had tried it and did not like it. When she was not feeling smart or talented – she would lose interest.
With the assistance of my husband and I discussing the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, our tiny dancer started approaching her work with a growth mindset. Once she started to see the positive results, she realized that all of her hard work and perseverance was paying off. Every once in a while she has a set back when her class moves toward a new concept or topic, especially in math. With the help of her tutor, teacher, Mommy and Daddy – she starts to see the progress in herself again. It is so important to stay on top of your child’s education and learning curve as it takes a turn every once in a while. Now, when she masters a problem or whatever she is working on, you can not tear her away from it.
This makes us incredibly proud and reassured that all the extreme efforts and exhausting hours of hard work was worth all the tears. Now we have a very confident daughter that is happy with smiles from ear-to-ear.